So I remember a Tuesday night back in 1993. I was sitting there, just finishing an episode of “Full House”. I was 12, so spare me. Well, I remember searching something or the other bellow my bed. Meanwhile, I ketch a glimpse of my father chugging antacid like a frat boy downing cheap beer. Soon, I hear my Mom tell me to get ready, because she thinks that my Dad is having a heart attack.
So I go down stairs, and my father is in absolute pain, and falling in and out of consciousness. I sat with him until Fire Rescue arrived. We told each other that we loved each other, because we both knew that that could be the last time that we talked. Such moments seem to last forever. It seemed like a lifetime before Fire Rescue got there, and it seemed like they are doing a lot of dicking around once they arrived.
So they took my father to the now defunct MCP Hospital. When we arrived, they took us into a private waiting room. I didn’t know that they had those. I mean, they had a big screen TV and everything. It wasn’t like I was watching much. All I could do is sit there and cry.
So the doctors come in, and they say that my Dad coded, and they revived him. Usually, they would give patients medications to tie them over until they could do a more invasive procedure. But it turns out that my Dad coughed up blood into the tube that they stuck down his throat. So that was out.
So, they told us that they were going to do what is called and Emergency Angioplasty. So basically that procedure entails sticking a tube in someone’s groin which goes all the way up to the clogged part of the artery, where they stick a balloon in there, inflate it, and push the plaque aside. Of course, if your arteries don’t stretch enough, they could burst, at which point, they would have to cut open your chest to fix it.
So let’s review. I’m 12, it’s a school night, my father had a heart attack, his heart stopped, he coughed up blood into a tube that they stuck down his throat, and now they want to stick a tube in his groin and hopefully not have to cut open his chest. Needless to say, I was a little upset.
So my Mother, her friend, and I went up to a different waiting room, where I tried to get some sleep, but couldn’t. It turns out that we were in the wrong place, so we went to yet another waiting area. This was all after my Mom gave the people our Insurance info and signed all the consent forms without even reading them, because that is what you do in those circumstances. Later, more family arrived, and we made the best of the situation. It is weird how these hard times can really bring people together.
Later, there was an announcement over the loud speakers, “Page to the Cath Lab.” My Mom freaked out, and grabbed her friend’s arm for dear life. We thought that something went wrong, but the doctors soon came out and told us that everything was fine and that that was just an announcement that they were done.
So the worst was over, or so I thought. We actually got to go see my Dad that night, and I totally freaked out. He was hooked up too all kinds of IV’s and machines, and it was really scary. Especially since it never looked like that on TV. But I calmed down, and then we went home. I got about a few hours of sleep, before they called us in to tell us that they didn’t know if he was going to make it. It turns out that he just kept knocking off his Oxygen mask, which threw off the machines.
I guess you could say that that was a turning point in my life. I never would have gotten through it without the love and support of friends and family. But I realized that day that I better start appreciating my father, because he could be gone any day now. See, when you are 12, your Dad is like the guy who gives the bad news or gives the punishment. You don’t really appreciate him, because, well, you don’t know any better. Then, you realize that he could be gone at any minute, and then you start to shape up pretty quickly. And that goes for everyone who is important in your life.
So the next time you see someone that you love, give them a big hug, and tell them that you love them. Hug them until they beg for air. Tell them what they mean to you. Because that moment could be your last together, so you need to start loving them the way that you should now, because there isn’t that much time. Not next week or tomorrow or even ten minutes from now; when finals are over, or that project at work is done, or when you get over your hangover from partying all week, or when you ketch up on sleep, or when you aren’t blogging like a maniac, or when you aren’t bullshitting on IM, or when you aren’t reading up on the new cool computer thing, or when you aren’t watching sports or vegging out to the newest trashy Reality TV show, or when there is space free on your ever so important and self aggrandizing calendar.
Start now, before it's too late.